Mother’s Last Birthday

My mother’s last birthday is coming up on September 13th. She’ll be 75 and she’s dying. She’s in hospice now, has been for two weeks and 4 days now. She had a stroke on Wednesday, August 24th.

This is the first time I’m faced with an odd situation such as this –

Mom’s dying and she’s still alive to see her 75th birthday.

What in the world do I do?

What do I say?

I will be calling her, or at least Dad, which we are not on good terms cause, well, I won’t get into it here. Do I say to her – You’ve made it to 75.

I really can’t seem to find anything on this matter at hand. I’m completely lost in what to do and how to say it. On top of that, I’m 2,000 miles away, she being in Tennessee and I’m in Washington state. I’m trying to gather funds to see her late next month if not sooner.

Time is ticking and I need advice quick.

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Nov. 21st last day for book prints

My contract is ending with my publisher come December 5th.

This means the digital copies will be removed from stores sooner than later.

The paperback copies will end printing November 21st. If you want to buy a copy, head to your book store soon before they are gone. Click the link below for all online stores –

https://tarabdobbs.com/buy-souls-little-lie-here/

If you follow my newsletter or Twitter, you’ll know I posted a 30% off sale coupon code from Create Space. I won’t post it here, sorry. You’ll have to join my newsletter to get such goodies or find it on my Twitter page.

As of right now, I’m almost finished with chapter 25 of book 2.

That’s really about it.

Thanks.

Coming To The Home Stretch

I’m nearly done with writing my second manuscript for book 2 Soul’s Little Lie: Whispers in the Hall. I figure I have 5 more chapters to go. I could be done by late October or sooner. We shall see.

My goodness, I haven’t posted anything on my blog in a month or more. This time I want to showcase my progress from my dry erase board of the past few months. On each photo, about four of them, it will show my regular life schedule that also mingled with my writing.

You’ll probably notice a great gap in mouths and gaps in between weeks. Writing is hard at times, especially when that pesky writer’s block kicks in. The story is all there, it’s just life stresses keep you from writing. The darkness inside you of the doubt you have in your craft tries to weight you down with that massive or even small writer’s block. It’s no joke when people say: writing is hard.

What they mean by ‘writing is hard’ isn’t the writing part of typing up and hand writing words on a page, it’s getting the words out from your mind to your fingers to the blank page. That blank page can be intimidating at times. You just don’t quite know how to put the words together in telling the story of what scene or situation or conversation comes up next from where you left off.

Now that I’ve broken free of this nasty writer’s block that lingered for a collective total of six months or more, I’m almost done with the story. This second book has been the hardest cause you ‘feel’ as though the story is done with just that one first book, but oh know, it’s far from over.

At NorWesCon 2016 author Jennifer Brozek gave me some well needed words of encouragement that I will never forget:

“The hardest part in writing a book series is that second book. Most beginning writers have the hardest time writing a second book cause inside they believe that first book is the finished story. If you can show that you produced a second book in a series, that will help you get noticed by publishers. Until then, just keep writing and finish that second novel.”

I may have not repeated exactly her words, but it’s damn close to my ability in remembering them.

Now, onto what my work load looks like. Mind, I write on the board what I have produced and what happened in the day later in the evening. I don’t write a deadline to myself. It psychs me out and upsets me.

I gave up on the original idea of making a deadline, with posting a timeline of each week of which chapters to write, as seen in the first image on the left for the month of February.

In the second image, June 23-July 20, 2016 I began showcasing my real home life of what an author goes through in between ‘writer’s block’ and real life and then finally the writing that flows. Same thing for the third image of July 21-August 17, 2016.

What I used to do back when I wrote the first Soul’s Little Lie manuscript was, I kept all of this in my head of how I was producing chapters. Writing 1 chapter a week or more which spanned a total of 9 months. This time for the second book, it’s been a fussy child to me. I’ve been working on the second novel since late fall 2014. What really bogged me down in my writing for the first year or two was the constant interruptions of my elderly parents. They could not respect what I was trying to achieve. Now, you can see I’m more focused far, far away from them.

To add, I’ll do this little ‘writer’s tag’ questionnaire that I found on Jenna Moreci YouTube channel.

#1 What do you eat or drink while writing? – Maxwell House Coffee w/ International Delights Creamer of a flavor I’m in the mood for, usually it’s Almoretto Cafe and sometimes tea, but in between each cup of coffee, usually 2 cups one in the morning and one at night, I’ll drink a few 8oz water bottles of water. Oh, I don’t eat while I’m writing. I’ll take my food into the living room or watch videos on YouTube while I have my snack or lunch or dinner. Never, ever while I’m writing will I eat.

#2 What do you listen to while writing? – I have a large eclectic collection and it all depends on my mood in the scene I’m working with. I have a few soundtracks strictly for Soul’s Little Lie series. I arrange them in order of the story and use that song that comes up next as a ‘tuned in’ marker for my mind.
#3 What is your biggest distraction while you’re writing? – The negative hurtful words of my mother telling me I’m no good at anything. That then turns into a few days to a few weeks of depression and fear about my work. That emotional manipulative bs of my mother’s voice really hurts my time in the hours I could be writing.
#4 What is the worst thing that has happened to you while writing? – My first manuscript that I wrote by hand, that then I typed onto a Mac computer back in 1996 in computer class, decades later the hard floppy discs became corrupted and I lost all the files of all 200+ pages. Thankfully I printed the file out way before the corruption occurred and I have only one copy left. Recently though, 1 out of 3 hand written notebooks of said first original manuscript, along with 3 hard bound notebooks, artwork sketches, other odd notes and 2 hand written poetry books are in limbo at the USPS Distribution center in Federal Way, WA. The mailing location address was ripped off somehow and I’ve been waiting ever since, for nearly a year, for the box to return to me. I’ll have to just drive down to Federal Way location to get it that way even though I LOST the tracking number in the process of my move back to WA. Yeah, I’m on edge about that and that’s part of my writer’s block. I want my novel materials to come home to me so badly.

#5 What is the best thing that has ever happened to you while writing? – Currently getting Soul’s Little Lie book one published. Gotta consider each publication is a stepping stone to something bigger for my main goal.
#6 Who do you communicate with while you’re writing? – I don’t talk to anyone while writing. No one really should talk while they are writing cause you have to focus your whole energy onto your craft. If you must talk to someone, make sure it’s during a break so you can write down the notes during your talk. Or, just talk to yourself, since that’s where your writing is coming from – your inner soul.

#7 What is your secret to success and your biggest writing flaw? – I don’t have any ‘success’ to speak of yet. I just have one book published and have many more to write that will get published when they are ready. My biggest flaw would have to be – doubting myself and ‘listening’ to my mother’s harsh words. I have to break that habit if I am to ever succeed to my main goal.
#8 What is your inspiration? What makes you productive? – Music, my mind and my dreams that I remember when I wake up in the morning. Seeing that massive goal at the end of all of this. Can’t tell you what that final goal is, it’s a secret.
#9 What is one thing that you do or that other writers do that is super annoying? – There is this one author, I won’t say her name, that I met at NorWesCon2016. She kept on boasting this at the panel and in public at her booth – “I just want the fuck it all money!” Let’s just say, putting the cart before the horse and boasting that the cart can move, when it can’t, is a bad bad thing to do in one’s writing career. I don’t care how many books you’ve published or who your publisher is or how many you’ve sold. You don’t boast about wanting the ‘fuck it all money’ cause there is no guarantee of that ever happening. She was also very rude in how she spoke to me and other fledgling authors as though she was the ‘bell of the ball’, the ‘I’m better than you, cause I have this publisher’.
#10 Are you willing to share something you’ve written? – Since book 2 isn’t finished yet, I don’t want to share that just yet. I’m really not too keen on sharing book 1 either cause I need to clean it up for republication. I’m so sorry, but not at this time. I want to make sure both books are finely polished before sharing them in small bits.

Well, that’s all for today. A fairly long blog post as of late. Hope you enjoyed reading it and got a visual in how I do my work. If you’d like to see more my writing in what I’m up to, follow me on Facebook and Twitter.

All the Signs are There

20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists Sociopaths and Psychopaths Use To Silence You

I’m going to cut and past the article here. From all 30 years of my life of being around family members and ex-boyfriends and an ex-husband and his own family that were just like these traits expressed, I can’t stress this educational piece enough.

If you are in a relationship that your gut instincts tell you is bad, listen to your inner truth. You can get help and get out of that bad relationship. In the end, you can find real love. It’s not the end of the world when getting out of a relationship like this.

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20 Diversion Tactics

Highly Manipulative Narcissists,

Sociopaths and Psychopaths

Use To Silence You

Article By: Shahida Arabi

Toxic people such as malignant narcissists, psychopaths and those with antisocial traits engage in maladaptive behaviors in relationships that ultimately exploit, demean and hurt their intimate partners, family members and friends. They use a plethora of diversionary tactics that distort the reality of their victims and deflect responsibility. Although those who are not narcissistic can employ these tactics as well, abusive narcissists use these to an excessive extent in an effort to escape accountability for their actions.

Here are the 20 diversionary tactics toxic people use to silence and degrade you.

1. Gaslighting.

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that can be described in different variations of three words: “That didn’t happen,” “You imagined it,” and “Are you crazy?” Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.

When a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath gaslights you, you may be prone to gaslighting yourself as a way to reconcile the cognitive dissonance that might arise. Two conflicting beliefs battle it out: is this person right or can I trust what I experienced? A manipulative person will convince you that the former is an inevitable truth while the latter is a sign of dysfunction on your end.

In order to resist gaslighting, it’s important to ground yourself in your own reality – sometimes writing things down as they happened, telling a friend or reiterating your experience to a support network can help to counteract the gaslighting effect. The power of having a validating community is that it can redirect you from the distorted reality of a malignant person and back to your own inner guidance.

Article by: Shahida Arabi

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I’ve been asked by Shahida to only post the first main paragraph of the article.

You can find the rest of this indepth educational article in the link at the top.

Thank you.

Beta Readers for Book 2 Needed

Be one of my Beta Readers. Need your help for book 2.

I’m in need of some Beta Readers for my second novel – Soul’s Little Lie: Whispers in the Hall

I’m almost done with the book and just need a little bit of insight on how it is coming along. I’m up to 19 chapters and only have a few more to go. I know it’s not necessarily good to have Beta Readers start reading a new book when it’s not completely finished, but I just need a push from you folks.

What I need from you is to post a comment at Soul’s Little Lie Saga Facebook page that you are willing to help me with Beta Reading. The more Beta Readers I have the better outlook into the book I will get. More eyes on the book of things I haven’t noticed that need to be addressed will help me greatly. I’ll then contact you by PM to ask for your email so I can send you the file.

In the email will house a small questionnaire to follow in highlighting key factors in the in the book.

For example:

Consistency

Engagement

Character Development

Sentence Structure

How does this chapter make you feel in wanting to continue reading?

 

If you are interested or know someone who would be interested in Beta Reading my second book, please follow the instructions above. I will contact you soon.

Thank you.

Book Review by #NerdGirlSteph

Soul’s Little Lie Reviewed by NerdGirlSteph

***Stephenee – #NerdGirlSteph’s  Review***
This is my first book by author Tara Dobbs, but I am already looking forward to what book 2 in this series will bring! This book started a bit slow for me. I had a hard time getting into it and actually set it aside several times before picking it back up and sticking with it, and I am glad I did! I enjoyed the plot and the characters once I was about 1/3 of the way in. The flow really picked up and the book grabbed my attention and didn’t let it go at that point.The book does contain some typos and grammar errors that I took note of as I was reading it, but it is the authors debut book, so some of that is expected. I felt like the author knew a lot about the setting of the book and it made the reader feel like they were right there with the characters. The ending of the book definitely makes the reader want to continue on with the series to see what happens next. Overall this was a great start to an author who looks to have a promising career as an author.

Add this book and the rest of the series to your TBR list – you won’t want to miss out on this one!

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She gave my book 4 Stars!

I’ve been working with some Beta Reader friends to get the first book cleaned up again. That’s why second editions were invented. First books are always a learning experience for first time authors.

Book 2 is still in the works, but it has hit Beta Reader stage. I figure I have 8 more chapters to go. I know I’m in the home stretch though with the conclusion of book 2.

Well, that’s pretty much it. Hope ya’ll give #SoulsLittleLie a chance.

Thanks. ❤

Give Away Free Book

From March 1 – March 18, I’m giving away a free eBook copy of my first publication: Soul’s Little Lie.

All you need to do is comment on this post that you want a free copy. Then email me: mmmaiden101@hotmail.com and I’ll send you the book.

Those that want the free eBook, please post reviews on GoodReads.com when you’re done reading. Each review helps every step of the way to my much bigger dream.

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